The 90 -10 Principle by Stephen Covey

The 90/10 Principle *
Author : Stephen Covey*

Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will  change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life  is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no  control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking  down.

The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.  A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.  The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can  control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let’s use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You  have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will  be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your  daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her,  you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to  the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs  and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been  too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the  bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an  hour  in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic  fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building  without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find  you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues,  it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When  you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your
spouse and daughter. *

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a  bad  day?

A) Did the coffee cause it? *

B) Did your daughter cause it?*

C) Did the policeman cause it?*

D) Did you cause it?*

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the  coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is
what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your
daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s ok honey, you just need, to be
more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing
a  new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through
the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You
arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss  comments
on how good the day you are having. *

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the  same.
Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not
have  any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your
reaction. *

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. *

If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let  the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the  negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A  wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting  stressed out etc. *

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering  wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try  and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let  the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry  about it. *

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It  will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.  Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control  over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other  passenger.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the  90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will  lose
nothing if you try it. *

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this  principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,  trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad  days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.  There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes  time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to  the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does  this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged *

You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It  will change your life. Image

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